Put a smile on your face

Put a smile on your face

I get the feeling that we have reached the age in this human era where everyone is again asking that serious question – What is the meaning of life?

We are no longer satisfied with our meaningless jobs, the pressure of education, of status, symbol and rank. A friend of mine told me recently with a seriousness about it – “We’re all going to die someday – so why worry about the “why are we here” and just live while you are here”

That statement is always easier said than done - because for most of our lives we go about our days without ever thinking about the end of our lives. We are constantly looking back at what we did, we are never concerned with what we are actually doing and we wonder incessantly about what will happen. We dream about a future that hasn’t yet come and dwell too much on the past that has already gone and nothing can be done about it.

Humans are creatures of serious emotions - women in particular. I can only say that because I have lived it and continue to live it. I am not at all saying that men never go through hard times but I am simply sharing the experience – my experience – as a woman in this ever changing world.

My mother says to me all the time – “The more things change the more they remain the same”. When I was younger I could not understand what she was talking about – I still don’t fully understand but the murky waters of all her sayings are beginning to make sense to me as I bloom into womanhood. It’s no fallacy – the older you get the more you start to appreciate the little things in life and to a lesser extent if you really want peace in your life – you start to ignore many things that would you probably have killed for in your younger years. I remember talking to my mother one day – about something that I know i would have never spoken to her about 10 years ago. I can’t remember exactly what it was but I remember the smile she had on her face while I spoke. It was one of those smiles that only a woman has. A smile of – Ah! She is coming of age! A smile that makes a mother feel that she did something right. I’m not a mother, but when I watched my mother smile I understood everything she was saying before she said a word. As if she were telling me – 40 years ago I was in the same situation, or 30 years ago I thought the same thing.

Our generation is not the first generation to hate our jobs, hate our careers, wish we had more control. We are not the first people to ask the million dollar question – What is the meaning of life? We are not the first and we won’t be the last. Women come to accept this fact far earlier than men – because we come to accept a whole lot in our lives. We come to accept but we never give up on life! If we gave up we will never have the episode of mother talking to daughter and smiling sweetly at her daughter in the recognition that she is a woman.

For some reason we as woman know the meaning of life without even knowing that we know. The meaning of life flows in our very veins, it flows through our words, our actions and our smiles. When we smile life seems so natural. We are at peace. We can say to our Creator – Thank you.

Today is one of those days to smile – and stop asking the questions but living in such a way that you live the answer to that question. And live with a smile on your face.